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Monday, April 27, 2020

 

We are here for you.

At this time of social distancing, it's more important than ever that those who are grieving, isolated or suffering loss connect. We continue to provide grief support and caregiver support online and by phone. Please call us at 541.757.9616 for more information.

 

Book Recommendations from Melissa Allen, Bereavement Coordinator at Lumina

There are times when the right book can assist with making sense of thoughts and feelings that feel non-sensical. Finding an author that can eloquently capture the experience of grief and loss can be immensely helpful. I hope that these book suggestions may provide you with some wisdom and assist in normalizing the grief and loss that we are currently experiencing.

You can find these books through your local library's online catolog or purchase online.

Healing After Loss: Daily Meditations For Working Through Grief, by Martha Hickmore Whitman

This book provides a quote or anchoring thought and then a short paragraph about how this quote or thought pertains to grief.  Grief often impacts our ability to concentrate—and these short passages seem to be just the right length. Easy to absorb and helpful in centering our swirl of thoughts and feelings in grief.

It's OK That You're Not OK: Meeting Grief and Loss in a Culture That Doesn't Understand, by Megan Divine

This is a newer book by a Pacific Northwest author. Megan Devine comes at the grief experience from both sides: she is a therapist who also experienced profound grief after the accidental death of her partner. 

She challenges our cultural ideas about grief being something to overcome and suggests that instead we learn to accept grief as a companion. This is easy to read and very down to earth.

Option B: Facing Adversity, Building Resilience, and Finding Joy, by Cheryl Sandburg

Cheryl Sandburg writes about the grief she experienced after the sudden death of her husband. She explores the ways that the grief impacted her, and also how she began to slowly find meaning in her life again. She frames this as “making the most out of Option B, even though what she really wanted was Option A.”

A well-written book that examines the idea of resilience but also honors the impact of grief and loss.

 

That discomfort you're feeling is grief.

We’ve been hearing from many of you about the multitude of losses that social distancing has created: a loss of routine, loss of job, loss of connections, loss of safety...Because grief is defined as any reaction to a loss, we are experiencing grief in response to these current losses. These new losses on top of our existing loss can compound and make older grief feel raw again. This interview of David Kessler, death and grieving expert, has spoken to many of us and provided us a way to name what we are experiencing.

 

I'm grieving during the coronavirus pandemic. You may be too.

This article addresses the impact of the pandemic on the grief experience and reminds all of us who are currently experiencing grief that we continue to be impacted by our grief.  We feel alone, disoriented, and often fatigued. Megan Devine (author of It's OK that you are Not OK) suggests that what we need in grief is fellowship and support, two things that are quite challenging to obtain while physical distancing.